| Location | St. Helens |
| Age | 26 years |
| Cause of Death | Cancer |
| Date of Birth | 22/05/1980 |
| Date of Death | 18/12/2006 |
| Visitors | 2,415 since 10/10/2008 |
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What can I say about my beautiful wife Kate? No words would ever do Kate justice. Nothing I, nor anybody else can say would be enough for Kate.
Kate was the most caring, beautiful, funny girls you were ever likely to meet. Even people who had never met Kate, felt like they knew her! She was funny, full of fun and lived life to the full. Just hearing her name was sure to put a smile on your face!
Kate was a mad rugby league fan. She followed her team Saints home and away with her best friend Gill. Even then, Kate was positive, even on the tough games - Saints never lost... if the score didn't go in their favour, they we're "well and truly ripped off!"
Kate was a lovely Mum to her son Harry. She doted on him and made sure he was brought up with high and positive morals and values of respect for other people. She was excited about the birth of the baby she was expecting when I met her.... if only we had known what was around the corner.
Kate had a strong bond with her best friend Gill. They had been friends since birth. Their Mum's met in the hospital after they were born on the same day... they lived close by and as Kate and Gill's Mum's become good friends, so did Kate and Gill. They thought the world of each other and really had a strong bond that nothing or nobody would ever be capable to break!
Kate was popular with everyone who knew her. She had many close friends... far too many for me to mention on here!
While Kate was pregnant with Lilly she became unwell. Not knowing what was wrong with her, she was rushed into hospital and Lilly was delivered 12 weeks early. While Lilly was fighting for her life in Special Care, Kate was fighting for her life down the road in another hospital after being delivered the devastating news that Kate had cancer.
The cancer had spread throughout her body and kate underwent a gruelling 6 hour operation. As soon as she had recovered from surgery she started an intense course of chemotherapy. Throughout her treatment, Kate kept a positive and encouraging attitude. She would warn visitors they had to bring a smile and would never tolerate words of a negative spirit.
Kate was amazingly the one who kept us strong. When we were weak, it was Kate who lifted us up. When we needed strength Kate gave it.... yet it was Kate that was ill. That's how much of an inspiration she was to everyone!
As Kate's treatment continued so did her positive attitude and Lilly's progress - until 1st November 2006. Kate seemed unusually "down" and didn't want visitors anymore. She was no longer thinking or speaking positive and had decided she didn't want to visit Lilly in hospital any longer.
Days later Kate was admitted back into hospital. Gill and I sat by her bedside on Bonfire night listening to the sound of fireworks outside and just watching Kate fade and fade. Kate looked at me and said "I'm dying Chris.... I don't think we have time to get married". She turned to Gill and said "Please talk to Harry and explain to him what is going to happen and make sure he understands but isn't frightened".
As Gill and I left the hospital in tears, Kate called us back and said "Remember... smile and be positive. I can't - but you can do it for me"
The next day on November 6th, the doctors came to see Kate and said they were stopping her treatment "I'm so so sorry Kate... there is nothing more we can do for you". Those words will haunt me for the rest of my life. Kate insisted that Gill was told before anyone else and still to the sound of fireworks the 3 of us sat again in her room crying and wondering why. "Where is God Chris?" being Kate's only words.
As the days turned into weeks, Kate was getting weaker and weaker. She was slipping away from us and knew it as much as we did. Doctors warned that if we were to marry like we had planned to, then we should do it asap as time was running out. Our wedding was planned in a matter of hours - and Kate had her every wish.
The next day Gill pushed Kate round the Trafford Centre in her wheelchair, far too frail to walk to look for that "perfect dress" for her to get married in.
The next day on 8th December 2006, Kate and I got married. Kate was too weak to walk down the aisle, but by hell and highwaters did she try! Struggling to even be able to say her vows, Kate and I endured in the most emotional wedding ceremony witnessed by only the closest of people to Kate and I. There was no party afterwards, just prayers. Prayers for Kate, prayers for Harry & Lilly, prayers for me, prayers for Gill and all of Kate's family and friends, but most of all prayers that Kate would be granted her dying wish of seeing Lilly's 1st Christmas.
Cruelly that was not meant to be... Kate slipped away peacefully on December 18th -just 10 days after we had married and just a week before Christmas.
Kate's funeral was everything she had wanted it to be. She had left letters to those close to her but all importantly she had left a letter stating her funeral plans. Each and every one was carried out as everyone paid their final respects to such an amazing and inspiring lady. Kate had taken her rest with her Mum & Sister.
Now... almost 2 years on we're all still feeling the pain of the cruel loss of Kate. Harry has started school and Lilly is growing to be a mini-Kate! She is like her in every single way. Gill and I speak regularly and we're not the only two people who still find it hard to come to terms with Kate's loss. I have gone on to adopt Harry & Lilly, as Kate wanted me to do and slowly but surely we are all pulling together to keep Kate's memory alive. Kate is missed so much by so many people.
Harry talks about his Mummy daily, recalling the many memories he holds of her. He continues to teach Lilly about her Mummy that she cruelly never got the chance to know, but thanks to Harry, Lilly now recognises Kate as her Mum by photographs.
I would like to take use this opportunity to thank Harry & Lilly for giving me the gift nobody else ever could.... a lasting piece of their beautiful Mum, my wife. I'd like to thank Gill for her dedication to Kate's memory and for doing a wonderful job of keeping Harry, Lilly and I strong on our "bad days" despite her being in bits herself. I'd like to thank Paul for his continued support in holding me up when I have nowhere else to turn and for trying to help me to have faith despite wondering where God is in all of this. I'd like to thank those that are close to Gill for keeping her strong when miles keep us apart but most of all I'd like to thank Kate for giving me the priviledge of being able to call such a special lady my wife. Though we only had a marriage of 10 days.... my love for Kate will never die.
RIP baby - you are my one and only. All my love Chris xxxxxx
I'd also like to thank Tony for giving me the courage to start another Gone Too Soon site for Kate and for helping me to put together the words of her eulogy. Kate had a site previously but was deleted due to the abuse of some called "friends".... however the more secure site should now give Kate the site she needs and deserves.... peace, comfort but above all - a place for us all to share together, remember her and keep her memory alive for the sake of Harry and Lilly.
Chris.
Lay down my child
Close your eyes one more time
Let the night take you softly into sleep
Sure as the moon shining on your sweet face
Be rest assured you will be safe
In this place
The sweetest gift
God has given me
Graced with the tiniest beauty
These eyes have seen
Soft as the song of a winter wind
Sheltered by love
A love that will never end
Life so often a mystery
And each of us seeking a clue
To an answer I never thought I’d find
When I lost you
But in your time with me
Somehow you taught me to see
Just as in life
Even in death
You always will be here with me
So lay down my child
Close your eyes one more time
Let the night take you softly into sleep
And on to your maker you will fly
Low as the angels sing you a lullaby
Happy Birthday In Heaven - by Winnie Lovett
"Happy Birthday Kate"
It's sure to be the best one yet,
Though you left me here behind.
Did you think that I'd forget?
Your cake this year, will surely be,
A beauty to behold.
With the icing made of Silver,
And the candles made of Gold.
Yes, your birthday in Heaven,
Will be such a grand affair.
And I know you'll look so lovely,
With a halo in your hair.
The Angels will come from everywhere,
To sing your birthday song.
And I know they'll be so happy,
That you've joined, God's Happy Throng.
No I can't send a card this year,
Or give a gift so fine.
So I'll just send a special prayer,
To that wonderful friend of mine.
The Angels Sang Amazing Grace.
The Angels sang Amazing Grace,
the LORD came down and touched your face,
He held your hand and whispered low,
come with ME it's time to go
The Gates of Heaven opened wide,
the Angels lined up side by side,
a special guest was on his way,
the day they came and took you away.
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Kate, we did think about leaving a Christmas gift for today but when we saw the rugby ball - how could we ignore that and not leave it for you??????
Missing you so much Kate. Happy Christmas love Gill & Lee xxxxxxxxxx
Oh Kate how lovely and special is Chloe. Today just amazed me. She really was talking to you wasn't she?! Oh Kate thank you just thank you so much. You never fail to let me know you are there with me do you? You'd love Chloe to bits.... you really would. And Lauren, but Kate I'm still amazed at what happened today. Thanks Kate xxxxx
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Christmas will never be the same without you Kate... but how could I not post this Snowman for you?? Snow has so many memories for us.... as does everything xx
Have A Good Weekend Everyone
This Tribute Is For Friday Got Busy Day Tomorrow
Right now I'm in a different place
And though we seem apart
I'm closer than I ever was
... I'm there inside your heart
I'm with you when you greet each day
And while the sun shines bright
I'm there to share the sunsets, too
... I'm with you every night
I'm with you when the times are good
To share a laugh or two,
And if a tear should start to fall
... I'll still be there for you
And when that day arrives
That we no longer are apart,
I'll smile and hold you close to me
... Forever
If Roses grow in Heaven,
Lord please pick a bunch for me
Place them in my Loved One’s arms
And tell them they're from me
Tell them I love and miss them
And when they turns to smile
Place a kiss upon their cheeks
And hold them for awhile
Because remembering them is easy,
I do it every day
But there's an ache within my heart
Because I am missing them today...
Although death has separated us physically,
Faith and love have bound us eternally.
Though we cannot see you,
We know you are here.
Though we cannot touch you,
We feel the warmth of your smile,
As we begin a new chapter in our lives.
Today we pause to reflect upon
Those who have shaped our character,
Molded our spirits and touched our hearts.
May the lighting of this tribute be a
Reminder of the memories we have shared,
A representation of the everlasting
Impact you have made upon our lives.
Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
Thursday
For Friday
Thinking of you Gill xxx
Gill, I know I don't have to use to GTS to say that I am thinking of you right now but I'm going to anyway. I know things going on and the time of year are so not good right now, but hopefully with the love of friends and family we will all see you through.
Thinking of you as always, all my love Kris xxxxxxx
My love to Chris, Harry & Lilly xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Have A Good Weekend Everyone
This Tribute Is For Friday Busy Tomorrow
You were a gift sent straight from Heaven.
Given to us from God above.
We didn't know how much you would teach us
About the meaning of true love...
For true love sometimes means letting go
Of someone precious and dear.
That is what we were forced to do...
Although we wanted to keep you here!!!
However, this is quite a selfish wish.
One we know we should ignore...
But, we truly do believe
That God must have needed you more...
Perhaps to be an Angel now,
Full of wisdom and love...
Watching over those of us who love you
From the shining stars above.
We miss you more than you can know.
You will never be replaced...
In our hearts and memories forever,
Will be your sweet and innocent sleeping face.
Each time we see your picture
You seem to smile and say,
“Don’t cry, I’m in God’s hands,
We’ll meet again someday!”
“The Best”
God saw you getting tired
And a cure was not to be.
So He put His arms around you
And He whispered “Come to Me”
With tearful eyes we watched you.
We watched you fade away.
Although we loved you dearly,
We could not make you stay.
A golden heart stopped beating,
Hard-working hands at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove to us,
He chose to take the best.
It’s lonesome here without you
We miss you more each day.
Life doesn’t seem the same
Since you have gone away.
When days are sad and lonely
And everything goes wrong,
We seem to hear you whisper
“Cheer Up and Carry On”
Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
One step forward
Hi Kate,
Well I just wanted to let you know what I did tonight. Remember a few years ago we did a book of cocktails and called them all after after Saints players. Well it's been sat inmy memory box every since Chris gave it to me.... I've never beem brave enough to dig it out but tonight I did. I dragged it out and am feeling really brave because by remembering you I have not only dragged it out but I've had a few Gilmours and a Longy!!!!!!!! Mmmmmmmmmm. Oh I wish you were were here to share them with me but hey ho I've done it now. I feel so close to you Kate, I miss you so much xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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